I choose the first article to read because I feel like I often do have critical voices in my head when I am writing, and often hampers my ability to because I am constantly wondering if what I am writing is good enough for others to read, or even myself.
It was interesting to read about how Rajeev, even though he was wildly successful, was only able to focus on the small criticisms, and how that overwhelmed him. Sometimes I feel like Rajeev, where even though I know those criticisms are small in comparison to the successes I've had, I can't help but to focus on and languish over the small mistakes.
The things I can take away from this article are to focus more on the positives, and how I can keep doing them, instead of the negatives, and how to prevent them. Because I believe that if I can focus on the positives, I can make them outweigh the negatives, at least in my mind.
For the article about the fear of feedback, I chose it because while I personally have no qualms giving feedback (and I even think I'm pretty good at it), I still find myself sometimes angry at the feedback given to me by others. Sometimes, I think the feedback isn't very good because "if only they could see the behind-the-scenes" or " they just don't understand what I'm trying to say!" And while maybe sometimes these concerns are valid, the truth is probably that either I didn't explain something well enough, or something was unclear.
Overall, I think I am better at giving valuable feedback than receiving it, so I think I need to focus more on looking at feedback from others more objectively, and seeing the point of view from the person giving the feedback.
My reaction(sometimes)
Hey Brady,
ReplyDeleteI think you chose a good picture to portray your point. I think it is definitely harder to receive feedback than it is to give feedback. You also hit the nail on the head when describing why you think that may be so. I completely agree with you it can feel like more of an attack since they do not understand everything that happened up to the point.